"Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. " -Baz Luhrmann
So if this is really a part of growing up, which part of
this doesn't suck?
*crickets chirping
*crickets chirping
Yeah it got me thinking too. I can’t really think of
any good reason why it is not a sucky time of our lives at all.
If losing friends is really inevitable, who are the one’s we
should keep and who to write off? One would assume that after two decades of
existence, most of us have been calibrated on who’s in or who’s out.
The people you went to jail with, IN. The person who got you
out of jail, IN. The reason for that jail time, OUT. The person who has the all
the stash connections, IN. People who are gonna be huge someday, OU-er IN. The
most loyal minion in the world, IN. The bar owner, IN. The person to be most
likely hated by the jury, IN.
Weeding out is tricky, you say? It sure is. But I've made a
list of some species I’m planning to eradicate.
Tall-tale Teddy
I’m dead sure that if there’s anyone I would weed out right
now, it’s those people who until now, at this age, tell tall tales just to
impress everyone. Friendship that is not based on substance isn't friendship at
all. Then what do you make out of friendship that is based on lies?
Simply put, we don’t couldn't care less about how your
vagina can open a coke bottle. Because as friends, we already know what your koo-kaa is capable of. We know a lie whenever we hear one.
Needy Norman
They reach out to you whenever ONLY they need something. The
minute they start PMing, DMing, texting after a long time of no communication
means they need something. I’m like, seriously?
I’m not Santa. And I’m not fucking rich. I’m not gonna help
out anyone who only remembers me when the need arrives.
Some friends are just there for the booze but not for the
sobriety. They’re the ones that leave you cold when you’re sober.
Unreachable Udale
There will always be people that aren't good in keeping in
touch. They don’t do social media. They don’t do phones. And we accept that.
But then there are just a bunch of airheads that think are
just waaaay better than you. Better jobs; higher education; These are the things
the got into their heads and swelled it.
Most of the time, they are the insecure schmucks that yearns
for acceptance by the people they deem cool. High school was awful for them,
most likely. And they spent half their lives hating on people who had it better. But what they fail to realize is that they will always be misfits
looking in. Unless, they get over the fact that, yes high school was torture
like what everyone else had, then there’s no way of getting them have their
feet back into the ground.
Hypocrite Hector
Ever had someone ask you how you’re doing and it didn't feel genuine at all? That. These are the “friends” that check up on you because they
want to affirm that they are faring better. Come on, this isn't a competition.
If you can’t be happy for another person’s success, then just curl up and die.
In your 20’s, there
comes a point in time when you realize who your friends are; who makes the
effort... and those who are worthy of those efforts. Things aren't gonna be
what it used to be anymore. People grow and people grow apart.
Gone are the times when after class hangouts happen. Whatever
your definition of hangout was.
If you still think, it’s that sucky. Think of it this way,
at least at this stage in life, we already know who’ll stick with us for a very
very long time.
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